A Dad's speech at his Daughter's Wedding.

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

I thought I would start my speech by addressing you as the “new” family of my daughter. But I think it would be inappropriate because now that she is married, you are “the family” for her. Believe me; I don’t have a problem with that. I, in fact, want my daughter to have “you” as her priority now. It's time for us to take a backseat in her life. We would happily accept it but would surely request one thing- please keep her happy!

I am more than sure that you will keep her very happy. She will perhaps be happier than what she used to be here. But like all fathers, I obsess over my daughter’s happiness which is making me say this over and over again- please keep her happy!

She never was and will never be a burden for me. She is in fact the reason why I breathe and smile. I am getting her married because this is what the law of nature demands. I am helpless in the face of our culture and therefore sending her to your home. She was the happiness of my home and will now light up your home. I am giving my world to you. Please make sure it remains beautiful. I am giving away my princess to you. Please make sure she stays as a queen. I have raised her with my sweat and blood and now she is wonderfully perfect. For all the care, love, beauty and warmth my daughter will bring into your lives, I just want her happiness in return- please keep her happy!

If at times you think that my daughter has said or done something wrong, feel free to scold her. But handle her with love. She is very fragile. If at times she feels low, be with her. She just needs a little bit of your attention. If at times she feels sick, show her some care. It’s the medicine that works best for her. If at times she fails to fulfil a responsibility, feel free to chastise her. But empathize with her. She is still learning. Do understand her- please keep her happy!

I don’t mind if I don’t get to see her for months. I don’t mind if I am not able to talk to her on a daily basis. I would be more than happy if she doesn’t remember me much. But, my only motive in life has been my daughter’s happiness which is now in your hands. I beg you- please keep her happy.

Dear son-in-law, these words may not mean much to you now but if you are lucky enough to father a daughter someday, you will appreciate them better when you will find every beat of your heart shouting – “please keep her happy!” 

May Allah grant all sisters in Islam husbands who protect them and take care of them and May Allah grant our brothers the ability to do so, Ameen.

A Muslim Wife | Hidden Pearl.

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

It is reported that Shuraih, who was a judge, met ash-Sha'bi. This latter asked him about his life at home. Shuraih said: "I have not had any problem with my wife for twenty years. "ash-Sha'bi said: "How come?"

Shuraih replied: "On our wedding night, I looked at her and saw a rare fascinating beauty. I then said to myself: I should make Wudu', pray two Rakaa't  and praise Allah. When I finished, I found out that she was following me in prayers and finished as soon as I had finished. When the guest left the house. I moved towards her and tried to touch her. But she said: "Wait a minute O Abu Umayyah (i.e. Shuraih), stay where you are." Then, she said: "All praise is due to Allah. We praise Him, seek His aid and ask for His forgiveness. Peace and Blessing be upon Muhammad ﷺ. I am a stranger to you and I have no idea about your morals and attitudes. So tell me what you like and I will do it, and what you hate and I will avoid it. She continued: There must be among your people a woman that "you could have married and a man among my people that I could have married, but Allah (swt) has given you control over me, so obey Him; either retain me on reasonable terms or release me with kindness. This is all I have to say and may Allah forgive us both."

Shuraih then, said: I found myself in need of giving a khutbah, which I had not delivered for quite a long time. I said: All praise is due to Allah. We praise Him, seek His aid and ask for His forgiveness. Peace and Blessing be upon Muhammad ﷺ. You (i.e. his wife) have said many things, which, if you stand firm on them, you will be rewarded, but if you fail them, they will be evidence against you. I love such and such things, and I hate such and such things. You may spread whatever good deed you see, and conceal whatever evil deed you see. She then, said: "What would you say to my relatives visiting?" I replied: "I do not want your family to dictate things to me." She said: "Which of your neighbours do you want to visit me? I said: "The family of such and such are good people and the family of such and such are bad company.

Shuraih then, said: I had a wonderful wedding night and our first year was marvellous. When the new year came and upon my return from the court, I found a woman in my house, I asked my wife: 'Who is she?' My wife replied: 'Your mother-in-law.' My mother-in-law looked at me and asked: "How do you find your wife?" I said: 'The best wife a man can have.' She then said: 'O Abu Umayyah, you will be in a worse condition then her only in two cases; if she gives birth to a child of is she enjoys your favours. I swear that men have never seen inflicted with a worse evil then a spoilt woman. So discipline your wife.

I lived with my wife for twenty years and never complained about her, except once, and then I was unfair to her.

This is how a husband should be, how a wife should be and how a mother-in-law should be. May Allah have mercy on them and grant us to have such an attributes in the marriage life which eventually  bear fruits not only in this life but in the next life also and to meet at the hereafter In-Sha-Allah, Ameen.

Source: Kalamullah.com

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A Muslim Husband.

            In the  Name  of Allah, the  Most Gracious, the  Most Merciful.  

     

There was a man who loved his wife very much. The couple had 3 children. He could give her everything he could but the woman never appreciated. Though the man was not rich, he would share all that he had with her. He could buy for her clothes and the only thing his wife could say was that the husband was fulfilling his duty as a Man. The man would buy a dress but in reply, the woman would mock at him, because the dress was of low quality. The man would smile at his wife and tell her "one day, I will become rich and I will buy for you all the expensive things you need".

The woman could never make any phone call unless she was requesting anything from her husband and once her request was not granted, all she could do was to quarrel for days, sometimes fight. One evening, the man was coming from work, he bought a Kilogram of meat, happily the poor man expecting to surprise his wife, he reached home found the wife and showed her the package. Then she shouted: "eh! And you call yourself a man? Which husband, apart from you, do you think comes home with just one kilogram, no cooking oil, and no other ingredients? You better leave it, you're a good-for-nothing husband." Then she threw the meat in the bush and went back home. The Husband felt low but he never let down his love for her.

One day, the husband felt pain in his left foot, then a Tumor appeared on the foot, it then emerged growing big and more painful. He went to the hospital after several months of pain and was found with cancer, he was poor to have a better medical care.

Though he was sick he tried much as he could to provide for his family. Two years later the condition worsened and he was put in the special care unit, he was operated and the foot was removed, but unfortunately it was too late, the Virus had affected more parts of the body and at last he called his wife and told him, "Look after my children, i feel i can't live any longer though i'll always be with you in spirit, may Allah be with you". He then breathed his last and died. The woman, and three children cried, for days mourning, they buried him.

Two months later, the wife was crying by her husbands grave as she said these words:

"My love, you did all the best to me, you treated me well and gave me all you could, but all i could pay you, was endless quarrels and fights. I never realized your importance and your love until when you were gone, and when I'm the one to provide food, clothing, education and many others. I remember when i threw your one Kilogram of meat to the bush, but now i have nowhere to get even a Half a Kilo. 'The good die young' that's why you died when you were still young. A husband whom i could mock at but you only smiled at me. The husband who could care and had unending love.

I know you are listening to me and i ask you to forgive me for not appreciating all you did to me, when you were alive.

We are all missing your presence and your youngest daughter is always crying asking when you'll be back. But you will never leave our hearts until we Join you."

Moral

* Always appreciate what you are given, whether small or big.

* Love is not all about how much we have, but its all about how we share the little we have.

Relevancy
Have you ever taken time to thank Allah for what He has done for you?

Many people only remember Allah when they have problems and once their problems are solved, they don't take time, to thank Him or remain close to Him.

Oh Allah, I pray that you keep Your providence towards me always and give me an appreciating heart so that I'll always be thankful to whatever you give me, Ameen!

Source: NikahExplorer

Make Every Day a New Beginning!

 In the Name of the Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Staying away from Allah, the Exalted, only bears bitter fruit, and the gifts of intelligence, strength, beauty and knowledge will all turn to calamity and loss if they are kept away from the guidance of Allah, the Exalted, and deprived of His blessings.

Hence, Allah has warned people of the consequences of staying away from Him. If you are walking down the street and a car comes towards you at high speed and you feel it will hit you and kill you, you have no choice but to act quickly and try to get away ... Allah wants to warn His slaves that they face a similar kind of destruction if they turn away from Him, so He urges them to seek safety with Him alone:

~So flee to Allah [from His Torment to His Mercy - Islamic Monotheism]. Verily, I [Muhammad] am a plain warner to you from Him. And set not up [or worship not] any other ilah [god] along with Allah [Glorified be He (Alone), Exalted above all that they associate as partners with Him]. Verily, I [Muhammad] am a plain warner to you from Him.~ (Qur'an 51: 50-51)

Turning to Allah requires a person to renew himself, reorganize his life, develop a better relationship with his Lord, and do better deeds. It is the start of a new covenant that is summed up in the following du 'a':

"Allahumma anta rabbi la ilaha ilia anta. Khalaqtani wa ana 'abduka wa ana 'ala 'ahdika wa wa 'dika ma ista(a 'tu. A 'udhu bika min sharri ma ~ana 'ta. Abu 'u laka bi ni 'matika 'alayya wa abu 'u bi dhanbi faghfir Li fa innahu la yaghfiru adh-dhunuba illa anta.

[0' Allah, You are my Lord and there is no god but You. You created me and I am Your slave. And I am trying my best to keep my oath (of faith) to You and to live in the hope of Your promise. I seek refuge in You from my greatest evil-deeds. I acknowledge Your blessings upon me and I acknowledge my sins. So forgive me, for none but You can forgive sins']."

"If you fail in one of your deeds, you should not give in to despair; do not worry and never doubt that you will find a solution."

"Your smiling at your brother is (an act of) charity."

Courtesy of ".. A Treasure chest of Reminders"