by
Amani Iqbal
As
a new full-time mum with a seven-month-old baby, I found it difficult to find
free time for ibadah like I did before. I found that by the time I was done
with household duties and baby care my day was over! However, I gradually found
a few ways to incorporate ibadah into my daily activities. I thought that
perhaps other mums and mums-to-be might find it useful.
1.
Keep in Mind That Every Deed the Muslim Woman Does for her Family is Rewarded
by ALLAH
The
duties of the Muslim woman– i.e the house and children— have been specified in
the following hadith:
Each
of you is a shepherd, and each is responsible for those under his care. A ruler
is a shepherd; a man is the shepherd of his family; a woman is the shepherd of
her husband’s house and children. For each of you is a shepherd and each of you
is responsible for those under his care. [Bukhari and
Muslim]
The
importance of looking after our husbands– whether it be cooking their meals,
keeping them happy by maintaining a clean home or looking after the children
well– has been further emphasized in this authentic hadith:
A
woman came to ask the Prophet (saw) about some matter, and when he had dealt
with it, he asked her, “Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.” He asked her,
“How are you with him?” She said, “I never fall short in my duties, except for
that which is beyond me.” He said, “Pay attention to how you treat him, for he
is your Paradise and your Hell.” [Reported by Ahmad and al-Nisa'i with
jayyid isnads, and by al-Hakim, who said that its isnad was sahih. See
al-Mundhiri, Al-Targhib wa'l-Tarhib, 3/52, Kitab al-nikah.]
When
we have such solid evidences and words of encouragement showing us the great
rewards we earn for looking after our husbands, houses and children, there is
really no need for us to tire in our efforts to fulfill these duties! Keeping
these hadith in mind, we should try to start our day with the niyyah that
“every good deed we do for our home and family is for the sake of Allah and to
earn his pleasure”. This will help us carry out our household and family
responsibilities with joy as we know that they are all counted as ibadah!
2.
Make Dhikr, Lectures, and Quran your Companions
During Chores
A
great way to keep yourself alert and active while performing household
responsibilities is to listen to lectures or Quran or to do
dhikr! It takes away the boredom of repetitive household duties and is a great way
to earn ajr from Allah on a daily basis.
3.
Take Advantage of Infant Feeding Times
The
hardest time for me to stay awake was during the nightly nursing sessions with
my son. After trying various other methods, I found that a brilliant way to
keep myself awake was by reading Quran, hadith, or any useful
Islamic article on my Smartphone! Not only did my tiredness disappear, I also
looked forward to waking up at night so I could have some me time
with Allah!
These
times at night are also great times to ask dua, for we all know the hadith
which states:
The
Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Our Lord descends
every night to the lowest heaven when the last third of the night remains, and He
says, ‘Who will call Me that I might answer him, who will ask of Me that I
might give him, who will ask My forgiveness, that I might forgive him?’” [narrated
by al-Bukhaari, Kitaab al-Tawheed, 6940; Muslim, Salaat al-Musaafireen, 1262]
It
can be difficult at times to concentrate on dua during these night hours, but
with regular practise it becomes quite easy and a perfect quiet time to make
your most sincere dua!
4.
Read Your Children Stories of the Prophets and Teach Them Quran
Sometimes
it’s only when we feel the need to teach our kids that we realize our own need
to learn the sunnah and the Quran! Even though I’m still just
playing Quran or nasheeds to my baby, I believe as he grows
older reading to him stories of the Sahabah or the Prophet (saw) would be a
great way to earn ajr as well as instil love for Islam and the Sahabah in our
kids. This in itself is a blessing from Allah and a good way of bringing the
family closer together too.
5.
Make the Most of Technology
Though
there is much fitna in Facebook, YouTube, and mobile phones, I strongly believe
using them for good can be a fabulous way of keeping ourselves connected with
Islam 24/7! My favourite gadget is my Smartphone which I use to:
- Subscribe to useful YouTube
channels to receive the latest Islamic lectures right on my phone which I
can listen to anytime.
- Join Islamic Facebook groups
from which I receive daily notes of inspiration based on hadith and Quran and
links to useful videos too.
- Download Quran and
hadith apps so you can read on the go.
- Store pdf and mp3 files to
learn Arabic and Quran without the need of a laptop.
I
hope these little sources of learning and earning ajr prove to be useful to the
millions of mums out there. More suggestions and sources would be gladly
welcomed by commenting on this blog post! Remember, the main goal is to share
and spread the deen among the Ummah as effectively and quickly as possible!
Amani
Iqbal is a full-time mother living in the United Kingdom.
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