In the Name
of Allah, the Most Gracious, the
Most Merciful
I thought I would
start my speech by addressing you as the “new” family of my daughter. But I
think it would be inappropriate because now that she is married, you are “the
family” for her. Believe me; I don’t have a problem with that. I, in fact, want
my daughter to have “you” as her priority now. It's time for us to take a
backseat in her life. We would happily accept it but would surely request one
thing- please keep her happy!
I am more than
sure that you will keep her very happy. She will perhaps be happier than what
she used to be here. But like all fathers, I obsess over my daughter’s
happiness which is making me say this over and over again- please keep her
happy!
She never was and will
never be a burden for me. She is in fact the reason why I breathe and smile. I
am getting her married because this is what the law of nature demands. I am
helpless in the face of our culture and therefore sending her to your home. She
was the happiness of my home and will now light up your home. I am giving my
world to you. Please make sure it remains beautiful. I am giving away my
princess to you. Please make sure she stays as a queen. I have raised her with
my sweat and blood and now she is wonderfully perfect. For all the care, love,
beauty and warmth my daughter will bring into your lives, I just want her
happiness in return- please keep her happy!
If at times you think
that my daughter has said or done something wrong, feel free to scold her. But
handle her with love. She is very fragile. If at times she feels low, be with
her. She just needs a little bit of your attention. If at times she feels sick,
show her some care. It’s the medicine that works best for her. If at times she
fails to fulfil a responsibility, feel free to chastise her. But empathize with
her. She is still learning. Do understand her- please keep her happy!
I don’t mind if I don’t get to see her for months. I don’t mind if I am not able to talk to her on a daily basis. I would be more than happy if she doesn’t remember me much. But, my only motive in life has been my daughter’s happiness which is now in your hands. I beg you- please keep her happy.
Dear son-in-law, these
words may not mean much to you now but if you are lucky enough to father a
daughter someday, you will appreciate them better when you will find every beat
of your heart shouting – “please keep her happy!”
May Allah grant all sisters in Islam husbands who protect them and take care of them and May Allah grant our brothers the ability to do so, Ameen.
